You are Enough

When I was a child and teenager, I thought that I was only worthy of love if I was giving something to someone. If I got good grades, if I did the extra stuff around the house, if I attended all the family functions. As soon as that was over, I was right back to feeling like I wasn’t good enough.
This didn’t go away when I got married or had children and honestly, I still struggle with it now.

I frequently feel like I’m not good enough. Not a good enough mother. Not a good enough wife. Often I feel like no matter how hard I try, it’s never going to be enough.

When I think back to the child me, it breaks my heart to remember that feeling. The feelings of shame, of feeling unloved, of pasting on the happy face because my feelings were invalid. I never want my children to question what wonderful, compassionate, beautiful people they are. It is painful to know that there are some children (and adults) that feel like that every day.

I am not the sum of my accomplishments. I am not what has happened to me. I am not unworthy because of the events in my life. I am not unloveable because of where I came from. I am not a bad parent because I am sometimes short on patience. I am not a bad wife because I don’t cook all the time. I am not a bad housekeeper because the laundry is never done.

And neither are you.

If you feel like you are unloved, unworthy or unsure of yourself, take a deep breath and remind yourself that you are ENOUGH.

I am rarely moved by a song, but if you have the chance, listen to this:
https://youtu.be/sIaT8Jl2zpI
It may be the reminder you need.

You are enough.

You are loved.

You are worthy.

And don’t forget it.